Even though kinks are fun, I'd trade a lot of sexual compatibility for a girlfriend who's affectionate and intelligent. I just want someone who's nice to talk to, makes me feel understood and can occasionally captivate me by talking about her interests. Although to fair if she's a nerd there's like a 97% chance that she's into cool kinky stuff too. But still, on principle, I need a woman who can give me some good conversation and company more than I care about having my specific fetishes catered to. You spend what, 1% of your total time having sex? If even? I need someone I can mostly enjoy being around for like, 25% or so of my time.