Thread 12612305

How do I make friends? Like, I go outside to go to the gym or run or do other stuff, I talk to people, but it's always surface level shit... and outside hobbies are expensive beyond that. Like, I want to try snowboarding, but it's expensive... And even then, how do I make friends while snowboarding? I checked meetup.com like everyone suggests and all anyone wants to do is hike and play pickleball... this sounds exceedingly boring.

>>12612305 (OP)
Cope with online friends. It's easier to meet interesting people online in my experience, as people are less closed off when they are anonymous.

>>12612305 (OP)
this is nice board

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>>12612305 (OP)
we could be freinds :)

>>12612305 (OP)
You have to start somewhere. Friends are made by meeting friends of friends.
So you really just need 1 or 2 to start.
I usually befriend at least 1 neighbor in the neighborhood.

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>>12612314
I want to meet people to hang out outside and to date and just be a sociable person. I'm tired of doing things on my own.
>>12612317
Hi fren. What do you like to do?

>>12612324
My neighbors are all over 55.... Cool people, but not really people I want to hang out with. I know them all though.
I have friends, but it's so hard to hang out. 90% of the time I'm doing stuff by myself. I have one friend who's pretty good to hang out with pretty much anytime, but he works nights so it's hard to match up our schedules. The other ones are always busy. I am always just the outsider in any group. Everyone else has their dedicated group but I just end up bouncing between the outskirts of whatever group is convenient.

>>12612325
If you're anything like me, you'll attain all of that and find out it exhausts you. But good luck anyways. I hope you grab it all and find happiness in it.

>>12612333
Dubs checked
But yeah. I think part of it is I just prefer to do things on my terms, but I'm also tired of just being alone....

>>12612335
Something I realized in normiedom was that I don't really like doing much out there. Certainly not enough to pay the price and/or nag others into joining me, which is like herding cats. Most things I like to do can be done online with others as well.

>>12612341
I understand that. I do love doing other things. I love go karting, for example, and I live close to the largest indoor go kart track. But go karting is expensive, and honestly it's cheaper to just speed down the highway.
But I've gotten used to just experiencing the world by myself.

>>12612305 (OP)
try to find someone who struggles with the same pains you do

>>12612341
I think you should keep trying to grab the bag so to speak. You will meet the right person or people eventually and then you will know for certain whether that kind of life is for you or not.

>>12612349
I really fucked that (You) up. Intended for
>>12612344
Nice dubs, btw.

>>12612305 (OP)
I struggle with this too, I'm actually really social and yearn for conversation and when I get it I can talk confidently and for a long time but I struggle with starting the conversation myself and also maintaining the relationship past surface level work relationships or whatever. I know how to talk with everyone but I don't know how to actually be a friend and hang out with them and shit, only irl relationships I got are like 3 dudes I've known for 14 years

>>12612381
so true. I'm always the third wheel. Even worse is the times I've had two friends, gotten them together for a hangout and then they just hangout with each other and stop hanging out with me as much

>>12612333
True, my biggest fear is finally breaking out of the hole of loneliness and then figuring out that I don't have the energy to maintain relationships or not ever finding someone likeable enough

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>>12612533
same :(
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