>>16722646 (OP)Physically attractiveness plays a huge role in romantic success.
height and face matters most for men
yes women only consider a small percentage of males physical attractive, but not because males are largely unattractive, but because they are unattractive in compareism
Basically social media and online dating has increased your competition, instead of competing with your village you are now competing with the whole world
she sees your face besides some super giga topmodel, so she will always be thinking she is missing out on something if she doesn't get the top model guy.
Now, if some of these extremely attractive guys pumps and dumps her one for fun, f.e. through tinder, it will give her an ego boost and make her think she actually deserves a guy like that and that you, her actual looks match, is far below her
but ppl can't take this reality,
some have survivorship bias or delude themselves when a 30+ woman begrudingly settled for them after she realizes her looks started fading real fast