I finally beat this guy.

My biggest problem with Elden Ring so far is that I never know when it's time for me to slam my head against a wall fighting a boss over and over, and when it's time to go out exploring and getting stronger. In Dark Souls it was always quite obvious when I was supposed to fight a boss.

Also I've explored like 5 graveyards and haven't found a single zweihander. I did find some guy with one that was selling some ashes of war, maybe I should just kill him and take his.