I'm not a boymoder even if I wear boy clothes because I'm a woman, and therefore anything I wear is girlmode. Even if I use a boy's name it's still not boymode. Girls can't be boymoders.
I don't feel like a passoid, but as a boymoder I malefail constantly. I think I can count on less than one hand the number of times I've been "He'd" by a stranger in the past year.