i only recently found out from an ex that i was considered big, when they took their largest vibrator and placed it on top of my dick to show that i was still visible underneath it. 7" long and 5.5" girth, which it feels ridiculous now to type that i don't think it's anything special but I've felt negatively towards my dick for a long time.

it probably started with my first relationship that was long and toxic, but i had such an inferiority complex when it came to sex and my genitalia that it caused a lot of issues growing up. out of fear that i would disappoint in bed, i became really good at foreplay, pillow talk, etc and that massively helped ease a lot of partners into my size. but it was never really discussed until this ex so it really caught me off guard and i crashed out because it felt like i'd wasted all that time beating myself up for nothing.

size is really only part of the satisfaction for sex, though. I'm sure some of my partners appreciated my dick being bigger than average, but a lot of the orgasms I've caused have been from eating, fingering, toys, general seduction, etc., as both isolated acts and together. dick obviously contributes to that, but I'm more than confident that every skill I've developed to compensate for a complete non-issue with myself is more valuable than my size. as it's nice when a girl is visibly excited by your dick, the complete opposite struggle of getting it to fit without proper prep or a partner who is already so horny they're soaked is just as common.

anyways, that's the takeaway. fuck good and you'll be good. that ex was definitely a size queen though, proportionally, and definitely suffering many mental illnesses (wouldn't tell me how my dick ranked amongst others they've taken but they struggled to fit me)