You know the funniest thing
I thought I was submissive for literal years online
then I tried it with a woman IRL, it was all very orderly and respectful and clean and everything
got my ass whipped, spanked, pegged, ate my cum, got berated, etc etc

now I can honestly say I can't really see the appeal that much?
Props to the people who do I guess but I think I grew out of it.