what you realize is that there is high practical compatibility between whores and incels because they both represent the exact same mindsets in their respective genders. the shared shitty lazy ways particular to them naturally led them into their sad lives. it nestles in with addiction. you and a sex worker can have a great time together for a short time, but neither of you will ever find a partner to keep you accountable and respectful of yourself. as soon as there's conflict and you need escape, there's only coldness. or, if you actually try to hold it all together, there's hatred. to try and reconcile impossible differences. but hatred fades into indifference if you just ghost each other instead. entire masses of people like this all have this tacit ghosting agreement with each other, it's a whole way of life.
ironically theres a different kinda self respect in that. like the ultimate "it is what it is"

I do personally know couples who have somehow avoided this game, and are happy with each other and seem to just want something that works, plain and simple. for most of us though we're swimming through the sewers in chaos shit, and have to self-preserve with awful behavior. for the most grievously afflicted and hopeless, this game ties into every other aspect of life. debt, work, family, criminality. even simple interactions. for these people theres only the present moment, there are no constants in life, there are no consistently present people. and so truth changes every day.
a general definition of "health" is distance away from that abyss.