Anyone who seriously believes there is a magical fountain of dom women that's just hiding, while kink spaces have ratios of 1:100 sub men to dom women, is massively coping.

Sorry (male) bitches, the boomer truths you grew up with are empirically wrong. Men and women are not the same, they are mentally different due to biology, and weak men gives them the ick. It's very unsexy. Actual dom women are a special kind of deviant, and are as mentally brain broken as cuckold men (ie they have other mental issues and instability that make them undesirable).

Understand that this fetish you have is as unrealistic as monster girls or (real) futanari, come to terms with it, and move on. Drop the cope, let go of the boomer truths (muh blank slate, etc). There's no goth dommy mommy over the next rainbow, give up an stop wasting your life.