How to cope with being a black nerd who can't live up to the hype? I'm only 5'6, average sized dick, nerdy, big forehead, wear glasses, and 130 pounds. So I don't fit the BBC big black guy stereotype. In addition, I'm son of Nigerian immigrants and grew up in a wealthier neighborhood, so I never got into the African American culture, so I'm an outcast among other blacks too.