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Thank you for the support. I'll do what I can to make my analysis as clear and concise as possible. - So I ended up ranting a bit at the end. I'm really trying to understand the psychological underpinnings of this personality type because it's fairly common, and I'm curious as to why it exists.
The "Quirk Chungus" personality, is the result of someone who curates a personality based on conflict avoidance. They desexualize themselves to avoid sexual competition, because that can lead to conflict. They use humor to avoid serious matters, because serious matters can lead to conflict.
It seems, this particular "Quirk Chungus", married the male version of herself. The relationship lasted as long as it did, likely, because both make conflict avoidance central to their identity. They were able to avoid conflict, until being conflict avoidant became the conflict.
Shared values are defined, not by what is tolerated, but by what is not tolerated. By being tolerant of anything but intolerance, to avoid conflict, the cost is the lack of shared values. If there are no shared values, there are no boundaries, if there are no boundaries, then there is nothing to define the purpose of the marriage. Without terms, there is no agreement.
She mentions she is Christian, yet she destroyed her marriage to explore non-Christian behavior. She is not a Christian. She is someone who went to Christian church and her idea of Christianity doesn't extend beyond being a "nice" person. She conflates niceness with tolerance. To maximize her niceness, and therefore be a good "Christian", she must tolerate everything, but intolerance itself, because intolerance isn't "nice", even if that means defying the rules that make up her religion.
In essence, she is unknowingly oppressed by tolerance.