If anal sex is a non-negotiable part of your life, then you should have thought of that before you got married.

In my current, longest-lasting and most intimate relationship I really quickly disclosed my non negotiable fetishes and it's worked out great because she doesn't mind and even came to like one of them for herself. I mean I got a bit lucky but it's really something you need to disclose as soon as it's possible

Two perverts, two different trajectories