I've seen people transform themselves through their faith, you and your family are doing it wrong I guess. I'm not Christian, but only because I practice a different religion, but it is a legitimate spiritual path. Here's a hint for you, the Divine isn't there to give you Gibbs like big daddy government but to help you transform yourself and achieve transcendence, called theosis in Christianity, nlightenment in Buddhism, gnosis in Gnosticism etc. Pic related