>>531048715
Then it shouldn't be "So damn hard" in your own terms

You obviously have an idea in your head for what makes a good dom for you but cannot find anything that measures up to it

Reflect upon what you actually like about the ones you've been with, why the ones you didn't like don't measure up, etc, and you'll find an answer

You might also reflect upon yourself as a submissive as a bi-product of that exploration, maybe thinking of new things you could try and explore, avenues you didn't think to travel down and the like