>>11321205
In my experience a big step is when the other person realizes you will do what they want when the cage is on. My ex (it's complicated) and I have been using chaster and she's really warmed up to it by having a channel to demand pics and tasks of me.

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I'm cut, but picrel is my favorite cage. I've gone through 4+ cheap amazon cages of varying quality before finding this one I like. I feel like 4 $20-$30 cages is a much better entry points than whiffing on one of the expensive brand names. Don't get discouraged and just feel out your comfort level and experiment until you can really last