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7/13/2025, 10:23:03 PM
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I've found that TRYING to love everyone regardless of what they can do for you is the right way forward. The important bit is TRYING, since as a task, it's practically impossible. The world is full of assholes and people who haven't done anything wrong, but you just plain don't like them.
You can't just swallow the bad things in life (like loneliness, a shit tier job or a bad upbringing) and it's not healthy to ignore them. You have to measure the pain of life, and then extend love in spite of it: at first, towards yourself. Always towards yourself. And then, once you're secure by yourself, every other interaction will become that much lighter, that much more inconsequential, yet all the more playful and full of potential.
I don't know your exact situation, but you have to accept that no matter how many people surround you, you're at your own mercy. Chasing women and always showing your belly will hollow you out and you will be used and abused - hardening yourself and retreating from the world will not make anyone miss you or even acknowledge your absence. People are much too busy with their own troubles.
See yourself for the man you are, the man you can become. Forget the retarded archetypes. You are a being of your own. You can't do everything, no one can. But you are worthy of love. You have to trust that you are capable of good things, and that you're full of the love that you can gift to the world at any moment. You don't have to wait for it. Let go of this idea that you're saving it for one special person.
Being able to love oneself and to love outwardly with no shame or anxiety is quite possibly the single most attractive trait a human being can have anyways, but beyond that, whenever I try doing it, I find that it massively improves my mindset and attitude - towards other people, but especially myself. It's an incredibly effective self-esteem boost.
Pain is inevitable. But the hot, sudden pain of failure and shame passes quickly. You dust yourself off and you get on with your life. The slow pain of never having tried will haunt you until the end of your days.
Basically I can tell you fucking anything here on this taiwanese basket weaving forum, but if you don't see for yourself, it's utterly pointless and might not ever truly stick. Get the fuck out there, get hurt, and learn.
>>24547237
I've found that TRYING to love everyone regardless of what they can do for you is the right way forward. The important bit is TRYING, since as a task, it's practically impossible. The world is full of assholes and people who haven't done anything wrong, but you just plain don't like them.
You can't just swallow the bad things in life (like loneliness, a shit tier job or a bad upbringing) and it's not healthy to ignore them. You have to measure the pain of life, and then extend love in spite of it: at first, towards yourself. Always towards yourself. And then, once you're secure by yourself, every other interaction will become that much lighter, that much more inconsequential, yet all the more playful and full of potential.
I don't know your exact situation, but you have to accept that no matter how many people surround you, you're at your own mercy. Chasing women and always showing your belly will hollow you out and you will be used and abused - hardening yourself and retreating from the world will not make anyone miss you or even acknowledge your absence. People are much too busy with their own troubles.
See yourself for the man you are, the man you can become. Forget the retarded archetypes. You are a being of your own. You can't do everything, no one can. But you are worthy of love. You have to trust that you are capable of good things, and that you're full of the love that you can gift to the world at any moment. You don't have to wait for it. Let go of this idea that you're saving it for one special person.
Being able to love oneself and to love outwardly with no shame or anxiety is quite possibly the single most attractive trait a human being can have anyways, but beyond that, whenever I try doing it, I find that it massively improves my mindset and attitude - towards other people, but especially myself. It's an incredibly effective self-esteem boost.
Pain is inevitable. But the hot, sudden pain of failure and shame passes quickly. You dust yourself off and you get on with your life. The slow pain of never having tried will haunt you until the end of your days.
Basically I can tell you fucking anything here on this taiwanese basket weaving forum, but if you don't see for yourself, it's utterly pointless and might not ever truly stick. Get the fuck out there, get hurt, and learn.
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