>>279670173

A big part of the problem is that Japan is a high-context country. It's basically full of subtle interactions, reading the air. Just to give an example, depending on the level of familiarity, separating disposable chopsticks can be perceived as an insignificant noise, or a "Shut your mouth and just eat," or the incorrect use of an honorific or formality can trigger annoyance. They almost never lead to fights, but they are very resentful about this, as if it were an insult.

So you're put in the context of an immature Japanese teenager who can't distinguish their partner's mood swings. The manga/anime makes it seem obvious to the viewer, but in real life, it's subtle. That's why many protagonists are portrayed this way: they can't differentiate between an innuendo and a meaningless gesture. On the other hand, the fat bastard or womanizing Gyaru-ho is portrayed as someone familiar and adept at female body language. (This is more of an artist's delusion, but it has a certain degree of truth.)