True commitment is loving her through the ick. Accepting her ick as a gift and showing up and pleading for her love and affection anyway.
You CAN wear her down. Devotion IS a positive thing not many men will give.
If you can convince her that "well at least this guy will commit atrocities for me even if I don't understand his explosive and frightening desire towards me" she WILL consider you with that as a positive quality in mind