I haven't surpassed this hurdle yet, but I decided I WANT to beat it (biggest step), so I will advice you!
Address (ie; vanish) all your paraphilias\fetishes\sex fantasies before you learn and apply lucid dreaming\AP\Transurfing\neville, etc--otherwise you will constantly (mis)use all those methods exclusively for the sex\fetish...thus missing out on the REAL good stuff
>pic related is a lifelong celibate, head of Juna Akhara of Vedantic hinduism