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Kek, the classic
>my wife absolutely will not willingly fuck me but she insists that she loves me and wants to preserve the relationship so I believe her
The woman wants the relationship to go on "as normal" without any sex, which is what it is but the dude always believes that "fixing things" will end with him having more sex like a fucknut retard. "Fixing" a relationship at the point described only means giving her the full wife treatment without ever having sex.
He's a lost cause anyway. He's destroying his sanity because he can't compare this woman's actions with her words in any meaningful way.
Just cheat or leave as soon as this happens to you. There is no "solution"