>>937418922
If you're in A1111, I think that the CFG numbers differs (you should lower those, to the point where I was at 1.1 with DMD2 and it was still cooked)
Switching to comfy is a life changer, and getting rid of DMD2 is key to get finer results. But it takes more time

If you use bokeh, you'll have a nice photographic blure, but you might have some blurry details (like her face in picrel)