Do you hate effeminate gay men less than you hate straight trans women (born male, identify as female now, only attracted to men)?

Does anyone else automatically try to psycho-analyze their homophobic parents?

My parents claim to
a) never have noticed once that I was gay or a flamer and believe me to have a deep normative voice (my voice is deep but I'm still femmy as fuck)
b) they are officially non homophobic, don't hate gays, support gay marriage (but don't talk to anyone gay in their personal lives ever), and don't hate me for being gay
I think most of you your families are kinda OVERTLY homophobic - like they admit they treat you like shit for being gay - but I feel like its much much worse that mine don't and I'm treated like some sort of predatory monster animal needing to be kept away from (and was since age 5-6 or so) - and I just wonder why my parents are so AGGRESSIVE when I am around and need to critique everything I do or say - it's just very strange and there must be some sort of instinctual or biological reason but they've been this way since I was a kid - you can just tell they see you as less human for being gay and feel they can boss you around because you are weaker than them - it's very animalistic - and they never will admit a thing.

I do wonder if once they get close to death they will admit they knew they were being dicks the whole time and finally cut it out once they are no longer self-sufficient and NEED help - but who knows - maybe they will be ultra-dicks to the very end.