If women aren't property, then why do husbands get ridiculed when their wives have sex with other men?

Why do fathers get mocked when their daughters have sex with many men?

Why do people get butthurt when a foreigner fucks their women?

If a wife isn't the property of her husband, if a daughter isn't the property of her father, if a people's women isn't the property of its men, then such situations shouldn't elicit either mockery, shame or butthurt.