>>530022272
NTA but
>Seems like it's best to spend some ooc time getting to know someone first/screening/vibe check/learn about what they like
Yes.
>but what do I do if I or my partner just wants to hop into a quick fuck?
Personally I think it's still worth a quick check, but some people like the spontaneity of trying to read the other person in the middle of the fun. Just know that you'll probably get it wrong, sometimes.
>>530022193
I am a terrible resource for these things, but I'll try to ask a new friend what these boots are, the next time I see her on.
>some doms around
Funnily enough, I've been answering all of these questions from the perspective of a sub.