As a fem bottom I get a LOT of messages from guys who are either married or in relationships— usually either through Reddit personals or Tinder/Bumble—I list under women because I get more interest from straight men or bi men looking for women. Usually they are not upfront about it and either let it slip during or just say it after we have fucked. It’s not a turn on for me but I don’t really care, which I guess they appreciate because it means I’m not going to try to expose them or become infatuated. However, it is a bit unsettling how common it seems to be from otherwise normal looking heterosexual couples around my age. This has made me wary of dating.

For the two years my previous next door neighbor lived there, I had been letting him use me like his on-call cumdumpster. He never said anything about it but I knew he had at least one girl who would come over regularly and who I assumed was his girlfriend— an objectively hot, blonde SoCal beach babe. He was into degrading me and having me worship his musky and athletic body (basketball jock type), especially his ass (which was perfection) and size 14 feet.