>get told to just accept being fat
For too long a time, lazy guys here were telling each other that they "look small in a t-shirt" and to bulk. Everyone just ended up fat, and now they have to pretend like that fat is preferable to save face.
The impulse was good, but the method was all wrong. Bulking doesn't make you look like you lift while wearing a t-shirt. It makes you look fat while wearing a t-shirt. The method should have been toward vascularity and not just brute size.
/fit/ is a very slow learner.