If trans boys are real boys, how come they don't cry when I kick their genitals?

Like ok, I can meet new people, but how do I make plans with them? When I was a kid we used to hang together because we wanted to play, and in college because we wanted to go out and drink, but what about after college?
What reason could I have to want to meet people irl? How do I convince people to spend time with me?