see i went to trader joes about 8p.
and as i walked in pushing a cart this one woman with long black hair and long black skirt and white blouse holding a red trader joe's hand basketcame down the aisle the opposite way as me. between her and me was a structural column and another male shopper blocking the way. only one shall pass. she stepped to the side to let me thought but I stopped and told her she can come through. and she smiled and went to the cash register.
So I just thought I was being polite. but I got a look from my companion that came with me shopping. and all I said was
'i was being polite'
>oh so you know what I mean
'well i mean. no i don't'
'i did not even notice what the person looked like. i just allowed a complete stranger, male or female pass through before i barged in

not sure if i can find it right now