>>212953810
stopped messaging my hipster ex a few years back, but she still hits me up every few months, birthdays, holidays, the occasional vague hey

she's the type who keeps people on a slow simmer, and i think relationships for her are more about widening her circle than anything deep. at first i wanted to cut contact entirely, felt like staying in touch was betraying myself, but over time i started feeling like locking myself in that rigid mindset was its own kind of self betrayal, like yeah, boundaries matter, but growth does too. we hang, it's fine, just surface level. i don't ask about her bfs, never met one, and i cut the convo short if she brings them up.