I’m 31 and I feel foolish and ashamed and childish and stupid. How do I cope with having been lied to? And how do I deal with jerks who minimize what I am dealing with?
Please don’t try to minimize what I’m feeling or treat this like it’s a small issue.

“That’s life, people lie.” “You’re making a big deal out of nothing.” “Grow a thicker skin.” “You should let it go already.”

Each of these dismisses the emotional betrayal of being lied to. What advice do you have for dealing with these kinds of people?

I am 31 and I did not realize that I can’t just simply take people for their word and people will lie through their teeth to me.

I feel so very embarrassed and humiliated and hurt. An employer lied through his teeth to me and I did not realize until years later.

If I am late to a job interview and I don’t get the job that’s fair.

But if I’m late to a job interview and then I am told that I will be called again to ask about rescheduling only to them be ghosted, that is NOT fair.

Afterword I had no idea why I wasn’t contacted again. But I was so fucking clueless and dumbass to understand that I was lied to directly through their teeth. I gave the benefit of the doubt that “they lost my contact info” or something.

No, and then it occurred to me that they would never reschedule somebody who was late to an interview.
I feel foolish, childish, embarrassed, and really hurt. Especially for being 31 and not understanding that’s some people both lie through their teeth to me and then they won’t give a single shit.
They lied to me. And I didn’t even know. And I was kind. And I waited. And I believed in decency — and they didn’t care at all.
If people can look me in the eye, say something comforting, and then vanish like I was never even worth a follow-up… How am I supposed to trust anything? Or anyone?
How many times over the years have I been blatantly lied to but I was such a dumbass that I didn’t see it?