>>11346338
I've done plenty of electro play. I would say that it's a lot more scary than it is painful. This applies to violet wands, shock collars, cattle prods, electrified floggers, etc. I don't know much about anything else, because I haven't tried it.

But, for example, I often strap the violet wand to my leg and use my body as the conductor so it hurts us both the same amount. But they're being tortured and I'm not, because the experience is much more intense when they're not in control of it and unable to anticipate it. It's much scarier strapped down, blindfolded, and in a submissive headspace. Even if it doesn't, strictly speaking, hurt that much.