big LSI 9305 i16 installed and man does this solve problems or what. goodbye to the old pcie to 10x sata jbod controller I had, served me good from 2017 but I realised it's creating a lot of problems with stability. scrub took 9 days, now we're talking of hours. VM boots up almost instantly, before the boot was hanging on the super slow controller timing out basically
big thanks to the big anon who told me to buy this model