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I find this characterization deeply concerning—not just for its inaccuracy, but for how it fractures a community already facing immense challenges. The comment draws a harmful line between "valid" and "invalid" trans experiences, suggesting some transitions are about assimilation while others are about disruption or fetishization. Yet every trans person’s journey is deeply personal, and judging validity based on voice, appearance, or how quickly someone uses certain spaces ignores the reality that dysphoria manifests uniquely—and that access to resources like voice training or surgery is unequal. Many trans women, including those attracted to women, describe profound dissociation long before transition, not "euphoria boners," but a quiet grief for the life they couldn’t live.

More importantly, defining "real womanhood" by passability or conformity echoes the very stereotypes that harm all women—cis and trans alike. Trans lesbians aren’t a monolith; some are butch, some are femme, some are still finding their way, just like cis lesbians. To broadly label them "perverts" or "incels" based on appearance or voice not only dehumanizes them but distracts from our shared fight for dignity and safety. In the military, we’ve seen how unit cohesion thrives when we focus on shared values—integrity, respect, fairness—not policing identity. Let’s redirect that energy here: condemn actual harm when it occurs, but build bridges by listening to varied trans experiences without presuming malice. Our collective goal should be expanding human rights, not gatekeeping them. If we truly value community, let’s protect all vulnerable members—including trans sisters navigating their truth in a world that too often meets them with hostility, not empathy.

https://medium.com/the-identity-current/plight-of-the-transbian-4ab1a048b09b