A few years ago, femoboys existed in a limited scope. Most were in contained online communities. Most had hid their face—For good reason, as they likely wouldn’t “pass” and their burly, masculine features would overpower the aesthetic. Only a select few with specific genetics could successfully do so. This realization kept me from being one.

Then I started discovering femboys on Insta who didn’t have the hyperspecific features that I previously thought necessary. Some of whom were even the same ethnicity as me. This inspired me to get back into it. However, this illusion was shattered as I found out more about them. All of them had an unnatural amount of estrogen, either being born female or going on hrt.

This made me realize that the only way I could ever successfully be/pass as a femboy is to go on hrt and get cosmetic surgery. But apparently that is frowned upon in the femboy community.
The only way I can even attempt to be a fewboy without feeling intense disgust is when I cosplay Astolfo. But that takes an amount of fakery and makeup that is unsustainable for daily life—only a few steps down from drag makeup. I guess the best I’ll be is an ugly twink—too burly yet also too effeminate to excel anywhere.

Some may say that I don’t need to meet any beauty standard to be a femboy, I just need to wear fem clothes and believe in myself. But if I’m unable to gracefully flow with the aesthetic, it’s just a big L. It’s not representing femboys well, and it’s a net negative for me. Hopefully I won’t be too old when I save up the resources for hrt and surgery.