I’m getting tired of my girlfriend’s shit, and I don’t know what to do about it.
I swear to god her life is like a sitcom with all the things that go wrong, and I try to support her, but she lashes out so aggressively every time like the world is ending. If I try to tell her things aren’t a big deal, she takes it as an attack, like I’m just supposed to agree and suffer with her over something I think is not a big deal.
She has had all of these genuinely fucked up experiences that gave her trauma and a fucked up relationship with her family and gets so fucking depressed and there’s nothing I can do to help. She refuses to go to therapy because she says it doesn’t work and wants to start cutting. I want to be there for her because I love her, but it is so draining and whenever I try to help it’s like I’m always doing it wrong. She’s always miserable and it’s making me miserable. It makes it harder for me to feel attracted to her. And whenever we fight and I have to explain my perspective on something or I feel like I’m not being heard, she says I always make things about me and I’m being a victim without any irony that she’s doing the same thing.