>>40708287
...The problem is that it takes a sense of time and future, and most people dont want that, gay or straight. Thats why straights had to build institutions to shame young people into marrying and then a fuckton of laws and legal penalties to keep the men from ditching the mothers (but curiously encourage the women to ditch the men).

So my advice is that I have no advice for 'gay dating'. Its a contradiction, an oxymoron, a play on words, a euphemism. The gay lifestyle is this very trap, sold to young people. People who have the least experience with men or relationships and no real grasp of the future. So the natural tendency is to slut it up in youth and then compromise and cling once they wall or double down on the sex aspect and become reprehensible degenerates who just try harder to hide it from public life. What the hell else are they gonna do?

Its not a judgment of sexual preference, its a judgment on an idea that contradicts both the selfish nature of men and basic mortality. You can be the most idealistic, romantic, decent young gay guy that ever lived and you are still going to be swimming in a shark tank trying to work the unworkable. And the tragedy is that these guys then beat themselves up thinking they are the problem not the formula...