>>11360736 (cont)
>overwhelming force over your entire personality
Funny enough I actually do experience it this way. Some activities, especially those involving executive function, I need to be in a dominant headspace for, and I need to be in a submissive headspace to relax. I also constantly notice subtle power and status dynamics with friends and family and coworkers. For better or worse, it's sort of the lens through which I view the world.

>the only way
This is a common pitfall. Common enough that "There is no one true way" has sort of become a mantra in the community. It's a cliche.

>Even without this being rife for abuse this going wrong could emotionally devastate you.
I think we talked about this before, but my sincere advice is to not fuck around with emotional dependence/codependence. Sex dungeons are not known for the emotional stability of their inhabitants and, poly or not, you should make sure you have friends to fall back on when things inevitably go awry.


But yeah, my advice if you want to switch or understand switches is to think about what you would want to get out of bottoming. Think about what activities you want to partake in, how you want to feel, etc. That's probably the prerequisite.