I need help from insecure people that have relationships. I acknowledge my insecurities are mostly irrational, but I feel like I have some boundaries with my girlfriend that sometimes get overstepped.
How do I share the things that fill me with anxiety without making it seem like its entirely her fault? I feel like if I tell her anything it will just make me seem like I'm trying to control her entirely. I've already told her I'm somewhat jealous and insecure, and that I don't want her hanging out with her male friends 1 on 1, but sometimes she just says shit that I think would obviously fuck with most people? Telling me about her exes and how much they had in common, clearly telling other men that she is into cnc in over conversation, telling other men that they are attractive.
What is a healthy boundary to approach these things when someone is autistic? I know she isn't cheating on me, but it wouldnt shock me if she randomly ended up doing it.
I am 32 and this is my first girlfriend ever, and I lost my virginity to her.