I feel like it's a larger underlying problem of people just being not just afraid, but abjectly terrified of potential intimacy outside of what drunkenness might ensue.

I know I feel it. Even when I feel a connection, I reject it with women, because I think it's just a joke, or that I'm not worthy. And so we reject others those who we might otherwise get along with as a sort of preventative defense mechanism.

Too much social media and porn defining our schooling years, which carry over into adulthood, and so we build up these barriers which become almost instinctual, and even though we want to, we just...can't. We laugh it off, it's gonna be on video anyways...but we want it so bad. We just...can't.