it has been like four years since i have been "misgendered" and it always seems to surprise people when i bring up being mtf, which i feel like in most cases should be enough to just say "okay, i pass; no-one knows"
but i look, like, really, REALLY obvious. or at least i feel as though i do. from straight on, i'm fine, and even pretty sometimes, i think, but from any other angle it seems almost impossible to me that anyone can't tell. i dunno if that's just because i can't normally see, like, the sides of my face or back of my head or whatever etc and so those parts of me are a little more alien and weird by nature, or if they actually look super weird
and then on top of that, i don't know whether, if they DO look super weird, it's a kind of weird that is somehow still totally write-off-able and therefore passable, OR literally everybody everywhere always knows and they're just being REALLY nice to me, which seems exceedingly unlikely, but also no-one in my life has ever really been explicitly mean or unkind to me in all of my twenty-three years which ALSO seems exceedingly unlikely so maybe i'm some kind of hyperautist who can't determine even how i'm being treated by other people

anyways tl;dr: title pretty much how do i know if i pass, like, for real and for sure