>>717969404
This.

The one time I tried by joining a hobby group, a cute girl ended up crushing on me but autism kicked in and I realized that despite all the sexy flirting we were doing, it's not really what I wanted in the end (we eventually broke up and that eventually fucked over the whole hobby group with her going schizo on everyone else, oops). Now I'm not even fit, I'm painfully average in looks, and pretty damn short at 5'7", and yet girls still got interested in me just for actually dressing nicely and interacting with them with enough enthusiasm. I won't say it's easy, because you have to be not socially retarded and actually actively connect and socialize with people which still takes a lot of energy out of you, but it's very doable if you get rid of your defeatist mentality, and I say this as someone who genuinely has shoddy social skills and can barely keep a conversation going. Of course, it helps A LOT if you're interests align, and that's a key point people forget to point out in terms of compatibilty. If you're looking for a lifelong "genuine" partner though, that's much more complicated and why thriving relationships are still held up as something to strive for because that's still much harder than just finding likeminded people.

As it is, knowing what I know now with my own priorities, I'm okay just cooping up being a shut-in.