not nudes, but I did find a friend from college on FetLife. Turns out she and her husband are swingers and have been active for 2 years. I ended up messaging her and outing myself as a swinger as well. I didn't want to make it uncomfortable so I made it clear I wasn't going to out them of course and I asked if they had a home club or if they were in a at-home swingers group for reference. She was super warm about it and appreciated me reaching out instead of being a stranger about it.