For context: I’m Dutch (24F) and he’s British (29). We started dating for 2 years. Honestly, he was my whole world. I loved everything about him, his presence, his confidence, the way he cared for me. He had a high-paying job, lived in London, and I’m in Friesland, but he always made the effort to come see me, and I’d go visit him too. He had his own place and pretty much provided for me in every way possible.

He was extremely protective. He would get upset if I talked to other men, if I left the house without showing him my outfit first, or even if my gym clothes were too tight. He kept track of me on his phone, and it was clear he saw me as “his wife.” I actually loved how he took the lead, and I found comfort in following him. I was head over heels for him. Even now, just thinking about it makes my hands shake.

He would leave marks on me, as a way to remind me that I belonged to him. He insisted the thighs were “better” than the cheeks and he was right it left a mark that hurt physically and emotionally.

I just found out that while we were together, he had been emotionally talking to another girl. Even though nothing sexual happened, I see emotional attachment as betrayal. I trusted him completely. I shared my first everything with him, and now it feels like all of that was disregarded.

I’m trying to hold it together, but it’s impossible. I don’t know if I’ll ever find someone like him again, someone so intense, protective, and possesice. I feel so broken

I want to forget him so badly, but I can’t. I was so obsessed with him that I didn’t even notice anyone else. And yet, he gave that emotional space to someone else. It’s unbearable