>>11350910 (cont)
>And once it's over how can you just.. go back to regular life?
>"in-between arrangement", "get some relief but then have to return to it"
Sure, as a slave motivation is a lot easier. But going back to my normal life wasn't so bad, because I actually kinda like my normal life. I missed programming, missed all my friends, and I was excited to see them again. Despite my executive dysfunction I'm actually a very ambitious and self motivated person, and I don't mind getting back to that. Although I find it more fulfilling to prep meals for my mistress.

Most arrangements are in-between arrangements, and no arrangement lasts forever. I wouldn't call that a bad thing. You should do whatever is fulfilling to you. If your arrangement exacerbates an issue, communicate. Talk about it so that your dominant can incorporate your feedback to change the arrangement and fix the issue.

And furthermore, to echo >>11350835, what makes it work is not the threat of punishment. Common misconception. Punishment is for creating discipline, but all discipline is essentially self-discipline. Your dominant cannot actually "make you" do anything. Even if someone puts a gun to your head, the decision to hand over your wallet is yours, and cannot be taken away from you.

But your dominant can inspire you to do things. Yet at the end of the day you have to follow the rules because you believe that following the rules is important, and because they're good for you, and because you want to be a good submissive who follows the rules and does their best for their dominant. It has to be driven by submissive desire. The agency is yours.