>>532658571
>clinging to someone for your own happiness leads to codependency which is a mess
I can testify to that. I was extremely codependant on my best friend for years to the point where I was certain I had BPD.
I eventually managed to detach myself and become normal again and man that time of my life was awful, I felt genuinely sick whenever he'd give attention to anyone else.
Not sure if it was BPD that somehow got cured by itself or if I was just a huge pussy.

TLDR: don't try to find happiness from someone if you life outside of that is miserable