>>11378547
I've been on both sides of this and found that I tend to enjoy the fear/terror/begging before the genital pouring much more than the actual pouring itself. It's over too quickly, and then you have to peel it off and it gets everywhere (especially when poured over hair). It's annoying. It doesn't actually even hurt that much. It's mostly unpleasant for sensory reasons rather than the absolute amount of pain, and pouring it over the genitals doesn't particularly hurt more than any other area, no matter the genitalia.

In my opinion there's a better way to do torture with wax play.

For context, with spanking, you can sort of get warmed up and relax into it. Submitting isn't easy. It's scary. It requires a lot of willpower. But submitting feels incredible. I love it. I also love sharing it with my friends. I've done scenes where I've trained like 15 people in how to relax while they're being beaten. By beating them while giving guidance of course.

But with wax, the way it drips and splatters is sort of inherently chaotic and unpredictable and makes you flinch and tense and recoil involuntarily. You can't relax into it, and you get slowly worn down until you're miserable. Knowing that's their goal doesn't really help. Although wax hurts less, it's much more difficult to manage. The fact that it's erratic makes it hard to even dissociate. You're just sort of stuck there, completely present in the moment, trapped in the liminal void of anticipation of discomfort, for what feels like forever.

This mental state can be sort of hard to break out of. So if you start with wax play and then move to impact, they're going to be less capable of relaxing and enjoying it than if they went the other way. Wax also feels nice on new bruises. So, it's usually optimal to do impact then wax, instead wax then impact.

Maybe I should start taking clients and become a pro domme, idk. I would have to take a pay cut, ironically. Might be fun though if I can figure out safety.