I’m mtf, and would like to find a long term partner who is heavily involved in bdsm. Looking for a male dom.

Grindr has helped me explore my sexuality a great deal, but it feels like people there only want casual relationships. What apps or sites do people use to find what I’m looking for? Like an actual relationship with someone who will tie me down, fuck me, slap me until I cry, and then hold me gently. Sadist into cnc and orgasm denial.

Also, sometimes I worry about getting catfished by fascists and murdered. I know most of you are probably cishet, but does anyone here who uses dating apps worry about that sort of thing? And is there a way to be more safe about this?