>>2688691
My guess is that in cases of incest, the existing familial relationship usually precludes any traditionally romantic feelings from developing. Adding sex and physical affection just deepening/complicating the existing relationship.

The saying "familiarity breeds contempt" comes to mind... I've especially seen expressed in a lot of accounts of brotherly incest the feeling that they are *too* close and know each other *too* well to be romantically attracted to each other. Is that what's going on with you and your brother? Why do you consider each other boyfriends if you don't feel romantic with each other?

I've got a fuckbuddy/its-complicated thing going with one of my cousins.

Been going on since our early teens, we were each other's first for pretty much everything. During college we roomed together for a couple years, and living together caused us to develop extra feelings and fall into the secret-boyfriends thing.

But we eventually agreed to break it off, since we figured there's no way we could make it work long term. Cousin marriage is actually legal in our state, but our family would go ballistic... I feel like we could might be able to weather the shitstorm over the cousincest, or over coming out as gay, but both together would probably get us disowned.

Now we're back to being more casual, though obv there's still some tension there. We've got one of those goofy sorta-joke-sorta-serious promises that if neither of us finds a "proper" partner by the time all our parents kick the bucket, we'll just say fuck it and get hitched.