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>be bicurious
>wanna try experimenting with another guy
>not a random hookup though, someone I trust and feel comfortable with
>best friend since middle school is gay
>and I know he used to have a huge crush on me
>kicking myself for not just taking the opportunity years ago when he made a pass at me
>not sure if he's still interested... know he forced himself to reign in his attraction to preserve our friendship
>worried that if I ask him to experiment now that it might fuck things up between us
Should I just go for it?
>wanna try experimenting with another guy
>not a random hookup though, someone I trust and feel comfortable with
>best friend since middle school is gay
>and I know he used to have a huge crush on me
>kicking myself for not just taking the opportunity years ago when he made a pass at me
>not sure if he's still interested... know he forced himself to reign in his attraction to preserve our friendship
>worried that if I ask him to experiment now that it might fuck things up between us
Should I just go for it?
Nah, can't say this has been my experience at all. I was forming puppy-love crushes on other boys before I even hit puberty (even though I didn't understand that's what they were at the time). And when I did hit puberty, I was only ever attracted to guys, never girls -- despite desperately trying to convince myself otherwise for several years. Now that I've gotten over all my socially-imposed angst about it, and I'm in a nice boring vanilla relationship with another guy, being attracted to other men feels perfectly comfortable and natural to me -- to the point where it's easy for me to forget that it's not the norm and that some people consider it transgressive.
While the exact mechanics of sexuality are still not well-understood, there's been quite a lot of research showing that it's intrinsic, not something that can be caused or altered by specific experiences or even targeted attempts to influence it. Some people's sexualities do shift and change over time (often being more flexible and variable during adolescence but typically stabilizing by your mid 20s), but I suspect that's all down to your hormones changing as you grow up, nothing to do with porn or personal experiences or anything like that. I would guess that your feelings about your sexuality are probably combination of this plus the experience of slowly getting over a lot of subconscious culturally-imposed repression that you didn't even realize you had picked up until you started running into the limits of the "script" you were following.
While the exact mechanics of sexuality are still not well-understood, there's been quite a lot of research showing that it's intrinsic, not something that can be caused or altered by specific experiences or even targeted attempts to influence it. Some people's sexualities do shift and change over time (often being more flexible and variable during adolescence but typically stabilizing by your mid 20s), but I suspect that's all down to your hormones changing as you grow up, nothing to do with porn or personal experiences or anything like that. I would guess that your feelings about your sexuality are probably combination of this plus the experience of slowly getting over a lot of subconscious culturally-imposed repression that you didn't even realize you had picked up until you started running into the limits of the "script" you were following.
Cause guys are hot, obviously.