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>mistaken identity
Ah that's unfortunate. Glad to have the username now though.

>condition my statements
That actually does make a lot of sense, I can see how it would generally reduce conflict.

>the idea of meeting a dominant that comes on strong
>at social events
Oh yeah there's no way you're acting like thread regulars in meatspace for the first time. This stuff only flies in a very specific type of culture, and I am thankfully not hopeless enough to try to do that to anyone other than extremely online weird slaves, honestly might have been too normal in trying to build a friendship first, I did manage to get one date doing that cold texting thing and it was someone who I think had a similar kind of living situation but the gulf between wanting paternalistic yet still extremely brutal slavery versus the softest of all cat girl love was too vast. Still glad she was able to communicate to me that seeing me in person wasn't enough to build a immediate spark like she hoped. A lot of people in that kind of space still might expect you to do more than just treat you like a potential new normal friend to get to know you better.

>don't feel the things you describe a slave as feeling
Yeah that's primarily why I have trouble truly getting into the headspace of a switch. I try not to say I "truly understand" something on a deep level unless I can feel what makes it happen, and for submission I just don't. Especially in this idea of kink the emotional attachment is like 90% of what's going on, I don't even care about the sex that much, so its a tough thing to try and figure out. Especially as the idea of bottoming even being capable of not being a mirror of topping is one at odds with how I experience it.

I say that not to belittle how you feel things but more that I find it interesting to see how other people experience this and to just understand more about kink as a whole. You know a bunch of math nerd shit, academic interest should come naturally.